{"id":14908,"date":"2021-05-26T13:29:33","date_gmt":"2021-05-26T04:29:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/153.127.199.252\/%e3%82%ab%e3%83%86%e3%82%b4%e3%83%aa%e3%83%bc%e3%81%aa%e3%81%97\/no-29-family-meals-can-be-fun-dining-manners-taught-by-dad\/"},"modified":"2021-05-26T13:29:33","modified_gmt":"2021-05-26T04:29:33","slug":"no-29-family-meals-can-be-fun-dining-manners-taught-by-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/en\/papas-style-en\/no-29-family-meals-can-be-fun-dining-manners-taught-by-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"No. 29: Family meals can be fun! Dining Manners Taught by Dad"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Table of Contents<\/h3>\n<ul class=\"mokuji\">\n<li><a href=\"#papas-manga\">Parenting cartoon, &#8220;What&#8217;s the Manner of Meal?&#8221;<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#papas-kiji\">Family meals can be fun! Dining Manners Taught by Dad<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h4 id=\"papas-manga\">Parenting cartoon, &#8220;What&#8217;s the Manner of Meal?&#8221;<\/h4>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/anime29_3s-500x437.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"437\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-5257\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/anime29_3s-500x437.png 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/anime29_3s-200x175.png 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/anime29_3s.png 721w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-1-500x483.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"483\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1150\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-1-500x483.jpg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-1-200x193.jpg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-1-768x742.jpg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-1.jpg 1251w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-2-500x483.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"483\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1149\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-2-500x483.jpg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-2-200x193.jpg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-2-768x742.jpg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-2.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-3-500x483.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"483\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1148\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-3-500x483.jpg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-3-200x193.jpg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-3-768x742.jpg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-3.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-4-500x483.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"483\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1147\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-4-500x483.jpg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-4-200x193.jpg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-4-768x742.jpg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga29-4.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<div class=\"prf\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"200\" height=\"200\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-882 alignnone\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga_intro-200x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga_intro-200x200.jpg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga_intro-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/manga_intro.jpg 280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Profile  <br \/>\n<strong>A1<\/strong><br \/>\nAfter working for a design company in Tokyo, he became a freelance illustrator. He is a hard-working father who produces animation, manga, and illustrations, including winning the Yubari International Fantastic Film Festival&#8217;s International Short Film Showcase Division Excellence in Animation Award.<\/p>\n<div class=\"cb\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h4 id=\"papas-kiji\">Family meals can be fun! Dining Manners Taught by Dad<\/h4>\n<div class=\"nakamidashi\" style=\"background-image: url('\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29_210520.png');\">\n<div class=\"in-midashi\">\n<p>The manner of the meal is the people you spend the meal with,<br \/>\nIt is the kind of care you want to acquire for a pleasant and enjoyable dining experience.<br \/>\nBut for young children, it is also difficult to remember.<\/p>\n<p>So this time,  <br \/>\n<span>Learn about the manners of eating and how to communicate them that dads want to pass on to their children,<br \/>\nLet&#8217;s deepen communication between parents and children through meals.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h5>Know the tips on how to develop good eating manners.<\/h5>\n<p>\u3000Not making a mess, not leaving food behind, not making noise&#8230; There is no end to the list of good eating manners. The list goes on and on, but at the root of it all is to have a pleasant meal together. <strong>Ayumi Tamegai<\/strong>, a former kindergarten teacher who now works for Japan Kids. We interviewed Ms. Tamegai, a former kindergarten teacher and current board member of the Japan Kids Nutrition Education Association, about meal manners.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-500x750.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"750\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1156\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-500x750.jpeg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-200x300.jpeg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-768x1152.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-1024x1536.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1-1365x2048.jpeg 1365w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-1.jpeg 1632w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<h6>Let&#8217;s remember to take time to appreciate and enjoy food.<\/h6>\n<p>\u3000I believe that the reason why parents want their children to learn good eating manners is because they are concerned that their children may cause trouble for someone else when they are not looking out for them. Therefore, they try to force their children to learn even if it is still difficult for them in their developmental stage. Instead of forcing children to learn, we should keep in mind that children should &#8220;naturally learn&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000The initial goal may vary from person to person, but it is better to set a simple goal, such as, &#8220;When I go to elementary school, I want to be able to eat dinner with everyone on time.&#8221; It is better to set a goal as simple as this.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000It is not easy to learn the manners of eating from the beginning. Before eating cleanly and without making a mess, it is a good idea to learn the two manners of &#8220;appreciating the meal&#8221; and &#8220;making the meal a pleasant time. <br \/>\nSaying &#8220;Itadakimasu&#8221; and &#8220;Gochisosama,&#8221; not leaving food, not liking or disliking food, and not playing with food can be learned little by little by knowing the process of eating and feeling gratitude.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Also, in order to teach children to enjoy eating, try not to give them too much attention. For example, a child may not be hungry at a mealtime set by an adult. Sitting and eating for more than 10 minutes under such circumstances can be painful for the child. Be aware that repeatedly warning the child may cause the child to find eating a boring time and even lose interest in food.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-2-500x375.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1157\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-2-500x375.jpeg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-2-200x150.jpeg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-2-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-1-2.jpeg 800w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u3000You also need to change your response depending on whether the child is spilling on purpose or spilling because he\/she is unable to eat well. If it is the former, teach them the importance of food; if it is the latter, tell them what they can do little by little.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Children are not yet able to judge what is good and what is not. Therefore, the key is to &#8220;praise&#8221; them when they do something good. By praising, the child learns what is right and moves on to the next step.<\/p>\n<h5>Dining etiquette starts with the simple things.<\/h5>\n<p>\u3000Eating manners should be stepped up gradually according to age and developmental status.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Fat to about 3 years old  <br \/>\nThe first step is to teach them to sit up straight. By having Mom or Dad sit facing you, you will be able to sit facing forward. Tell them, &#8220;If your belly button is not facing the desk, it will be hard for you to eat your food and it will spill.&#8221; This is a good way to teach your child to sit facing the table.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Next is greetings. It is good to be able to say &#8220;Itadakimasu&#8221; and &#8220;Gochisosama&#8221; at this age. It would be wonderful if they can say them with all their hearts so that they can reach their parents who prepared the meal and the producers of the food.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-1-500x721.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"721\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1158\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-1-500x721.jpeg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-1-200x288.jpeg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-1.jpeg 555w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u3000Gradually, the child will start using a spoon or other utensil to scoop and eat. Here, focus not on the spills, but on the rhythm of swallowing and chewing. Learn to eat the food in your own time and in your own way. If the child spills or is unable to eat well, make sure that the environment is created for successful eating.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000For example, if the food is on the front side of the desk or within arm&#8217;s reach, it will be dropped. If a child has difficulty eating a piece of food and it falls out of his or her mouth, the food may be too large. Learning to cut the food in half on the plate and thinking about what size would be comfortable for them to eat is also necessary for them to take the next step.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-2-500x375.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-1159\" srcset=\"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-2-500x375.jpeg 500w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-2-200x150.jpeg 200w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-2-768x576.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/29-1-2-2.jpeg 800w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u3000In addition, some children&#8217;s lunches have a variety of rice served on a single plate, and it is a difficult process to eat rice without spilling it. Therefore, one of the considerations is to create an easy-to-eat situation, such as serving the rice in a separate bowl. Parents should be tolerant and take the stance of praising the child when he or she does well. This will allow the child to grow without compromising his or her sense of self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Fat: Before entering elementary school  <br \/>\nAt this age, muscle strength develops and the use of fingers becomes more skillful. Therefore, it is a good time for them to learn the correct way to hold chopsticks and other objects.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Next, we tell them the importance of eating well without leaving any leftovers. In doing so, it is counterproductive if mom or dad tries to force it on them. For example, how about telling them, &#8220;You should eat a lot of food in order to have a good time at the park?&#8221; How about telling them, &#8220;You should eat a lot in order to play well at the park?<\/p>\n<p>\u3000Children cannot verbalize why they cannot or do not want to eat. Adults can voluntarily refrain from eating fatty foods when they have an upset stomach, but children do not have that option. When they cannot eat, there is some other reason. It may be that the way the food was prepared did not suit their taste buds. It is important to observe the child&#8217;s condition carefully.<\/p>\n<h5>Communication that makes you love to eat.<\/h5>\n<p>\u3000Although we try to have a pleasant family meal, there may be times, for example, when the children play with the food or make a mess of the meal. When this happens, instead of getting angry, tell them, &#8220;Mom and Dad are sad when they do that.<\/p>\n<p>\u3000For moms and dads who are too busy with work to have meals together, it is enough just to have a conversation like, &#8220;How was dinner today? It is enough just to have a conversation like &#8220;How was your dinner today? The most important thing in meal manners is to enjoy the meal. Let&#8217;s make sure that mealtime is not a painful experience.<\/p>\n<div class=\"mtm\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-882 alignnone\" src=\"\/hp\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/matome_11.png\" alt=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>\nForcing manners on a child because of adult ego can make mealtime a painful experience for the child. Simply sitting still is not easy for children.<br \/>\nIt is important for children to grow up with a tolerant heart, not only when eating but also when raising children. Let&#8217;s think together with our children about what we can do to ensure that everyone who shares a meal with us has a pleasant time without unpleasantness, while teaching them good manners.<\/p>\n<div class=\"cb\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Table of Contents Parenting cartoon, &#8220;What&#8217;s the Manner of Meal?&#8221; Family meals can be fun! Dining Manners Taught by Dad Parenting cartoon, &#8220;What&#8217;s the Manner of Meal?&#8221; Profile A1 After working for a design company in Tokyo, he became a freelance illustrator. 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