{"id":16979,"date":"2024-04-26T11:00:20","date_gmt":"2024-04-26T02:00:20","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2025-04-08T11:20:42","modified_gmt":"2025-04-08T02:20:42","slug":"the-real-voices-of-mothers-this-is-how-to-solve-the-problems-of-housework-and-childcare-part-1-how-does-everyone-else-do-it-how-do-you-divide-up-the-nameless-chores","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/team-kaji-ikuji.metro.tokyo.lg.jp\/en\/couple-en\/the-real-voices-of-mothers-this-is-how-to-solve-the-problems-of-housework-and-childcare-part-1-how-does-everyone-else-do-it-how-do-you-divide-up-the-nameless-chores\/","title":{"rendered":"[The real voices of mothers! This is how to solve the problems of housework and childcare.
Part 1: How Does Everyone Else Do It? How do you divide up the “nameless chores”?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u3000Mam Smile, winner of the 2022 Tokyo Women’s Activity Promotion Grand Prize, is an organization that promotes mothers’ reintegration into society and community revitalization through the production of the free childcare information magazine ” Itabashina”<\/a> and other activities.<\/p>\n

\u3000This issue is a special project by Mam Smile! We will be presenting the real voices of mothers we have met through our activities to date regarding housework and childcare in a series of three articles.<\/p>\n

\u3000The theme of the first session is “How do people do it? How do you share household chores with others?
\n\u3000The “nameless chores” are those little chores that don’t have a clear name, such as refilling the detergent or changing the garbage bag. Each one may be a small task, but they are all necessary for the comfort of the family. It is important to know how to share the “unnamed chores” with others, because if they are done regularly or carried by one person alone, they can become a huge burden.<\/p>\n

\nMoms’ True Feelings about “Housework with No Name<\/h4>\n

\n\u3000We hear that dads are sharing household chores more than before, but when we actually asked mothers about “nameless chores,” we heard a few complaints….<\/p>\n

… “They’ll go to the dump, but it’s harder to collect all the trash in the room, and they won’t do that.”
\n… “They’ll throw the bottles away, but they won’t go so far as to remove the labels and caps.”
\n… “They refill my hand soap, but they don’t notice or tell me that they don’t have any stock of that refilled stuff.”
\nThey do everything from running the machine to hanging the clothes out to dry, but they wash them with the sleeves still in the machine and hang them out to dry without stretching out the wrinkles.
\n… “I don’t know about details such as getting the kids ready for preschool unless you tell me.”<\/p>\n

\u3000Many said that fathers are unaware that there are “nameless chores” in the first place, or that they “end up doing them themselves” due to differences in how to do them and the hassle of asking them to do them.<\/p>\n

\nOur family’s ingenuity is revealed!\u3000How to divide up the “nameless chores<\/h4>\n

How can we successfully share housework and childcare, including the “chore with no name”? We asked mothers for their specific ideas.<\/p>\n

<Visualization of housework<\/strong>
\nWrite down what you want Dad to do on a piece of paper and post it where you can see it.
\nThe white board is used to write down condiments, tissues, and other items that may run out of stock and share them with others.<\/p>\n

\"Whiteboard<\/p>\n

I will organize and position things properly so that my husband can also clean up the small stuff.
\nKeep stocks of hand soap, etc. in a visible place.
\nPost a checklist of the morning process when the child arrives at school, and the supporting adults can look at it to standardize the preparation process.
\n\u25aa Write the morning preparations and the tasks and help when you get home on magnets and put them in order. The child flips over the ones that are done first.<\/p>\n

\"Magnet<\/p>\n

<Simplification of housework<\/strong>
\nUse home-delivered meal kits 3 days a week.
\nUtilize housekeeping services.
\nThe menu should be determined by the day of the week, such as curry on Fridays, pork miso soup on Sundays, and so on.<\/p>\n

<Application Utilization<\/strong>
\nThe couple shares the schedule of their child’s vaccinations and medical checkups with a scheduling app.
\n\u30fbCreate a LINE group to share letters from daycare and school with the couple.<\/p>\n

\"Diagram<\/p>\n

\nReport, contact, and consult on LINE as soon as you think of something, such as what’s in the refrigerator, what you bought, or irregular schedule changes of the children. Tell them what you want them to do and why.<\/p>\n

\"line<\/p>\n

<How to Communicate<\/strong>
\nWhen they did it, I would say, “You did all the way to ________? Thank you!” and exaggeratedly tell them.
\nI try to be specific, such as, “I would appreciate it if you would brush out the wrinkles when you hang the laundry to dry. I would appreciate it if you would brush my child’s hair before drying it with a hair dryer,” “I would appreciate it if you would let me know when there is not enough toilet paper left when you change the toilet paper,” etc.<\/p>\n

\u3000All of the mothers’ realistic ideas for dividing household chores are worth trying!
\n\u3000Some mothers also said that by working from home more often, their fathers began to pay attention to household chores that they normally didn’t see. It may be important to ask your father to take care of the entire house once so that he can see the big picture.<\/p>\n

\nUse the checklist to understand the current situation<\/h4>\n

\u3000First, it is important to know that couples have “unnamed chores” and how they are divided among them. Based on mothers’ comments, we picked up some typical “unnamed chores.
\n\"Checklist<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

I actually asked my dad to do the checklist…<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

\u3000By working on the checklist, the fathers realized that the burden of the “unnamed chores” had been disproportionately placed on the mothers, and they wanted to share the workload more in the future.
\n\u3000If mom and dad can share the workload well, it will lead to a better marital partnership. We encourage couples to discuss “nameless chores” together!<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

\nClick here to read the second article, “What is your daily schedule? How to share housework and childcare responsibilities to get through a busy day” article is here.<\/a><\/p>\n

\nClick here to read the third issue of “What’s Hard When Your Kids Are in Elementary School? The Troubles of Elementary School Moms” article is here.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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